It seems as though the minute we get saved - in comes the Holy Spirit and boom! out goes all sense of reasoning. It shouldn’t be that way, in fact , we should be wiser. The heart is very fragile and should be guarded jealously because out of it comes the issues of life. Let’s go through some steps, which will help keep your heart from shattering every now and then.

 Emotional Ties

Oh my! This one is like a bomb waiting to explode. It shared the same family tree as Sexual ties. There are so many ladies in undefined relationships with men. When I say undefined – they are not ordinary friends and they are not dating. They are just in-between and being in this spot can be very dangerous especially when it has been going on for years. Undefined relationships eventually ends up with one person tied emotionally to the other. There is the tendency to believe that intimacy & soul ties comes after sex, I beg to differ on this notion. Real intimacy & soul ties start when you begin to share deep personal stuff with someone. In chronic cases of emotional ties – both parties know everything about each other, people even assume they are dating or probably on the way to the altar but the guy ain't saying nada! In addition, when the lady asks, “So what’s up between us?” He mutters something of this sort “Well, what do you think?” all his words are indicating something is up but his actions are saying otherwise. Girlfriend, you had better pack your bags and don’t look back. The quicker you do this the better. If you have to do guesswork in your relationship, you are in the wrong ship. A man that sincerely loves you will not leave room for assumptions. Assumptions always look like the truth and most of the time, not the truth. No woman and man should go through the stress of having to guess where he/she stands in a relationship. Believe me; no chemistry in the world is worth that trouble. None!

Perception

Remember in the book of Numbers, chapter 13, when the Lord told Moses to send some Israelite men to explore the land of Canaan, which he wanted to give them. They came back and said “We went to the land to which you sent us and, oh! It does flow with milk and honey! The only thing is that the people who live their fierce, their cities are huge and well fortified. We cannot attack those people; they are much stronger than we are. Alongside them, we felt like grasshoppers. And they looked down on us as if we were grasshoppers.” Guarding your heart is all about perception! This is very important, if this is all you read in this column. Read it and read it well. How do you see yourself? If you were to place a value on yourself, how much will you set as the price? How much is your heart worth anyway? Do you see yourself as a grasshopper? Because from the above reading, it is quite evident that people will only see you the way you see yourself. You are priceless jewel so get yourself off the discount shelf!

The Man-Complex

Can real men please stand up? This is where most of us get it totally wrong and set ourselves up for heartbreak. Some women have all of a sudden developed the Man-complex. Women have overused the verse “He that findeth...” so much in prayer that it has lost its potency and now seems to think it is – “She that findeth....” The Bible records in Proverbs 18:22 “He that finds a wife, finds a good thing and receives favour from the Lord.” Most people say, “It’s the 21st century and the day of waiting to be found is long gone.” It’s also been said – the patient dog doesn’t get the fattest bone anymore rather dies of starvation. Please get yourself out of the desperation mode, believe me it stinks and brodas can smell it. Men are hunters, men love the chase of going after what they want and that included you! However, if it goes the other way round, you’ll have to do the job of keeping that broda in that relationship because he didn’t WORK to get you. You did! You ask, “What about Ruth? She went after Boaz?” Ruth did not act like a complete pest. She positioned herself to be found. Ruth knew she was a good thing, and any man that did not appreciate her worth was his loss and another’s gain. Now, that’s the attitude you need to cultivate.

My dear, you are all that and a bag of chips – Let no one tell you any different. Guard your heart!